The Art of Persuasion
Disclosure: I’m a member of the Netflix #StreamTeam which means that they pay for the streaming service in exchange for me posting once a month about the service. All opinions are my own.
Before I married my husband, Chris, I knew there would be times when we might fight. We didn’t fight when we dated or even when we were engaged. I understood that living together would change our relationship and fights would be a part of it.
What I didn’t realize is that our fights would feel and seem trivial in the beginning. Our first “arguments”, or what I prefer to call “negotiations”, involved the television. Since our relationship was a long-distance one before we married, we discussed our likes and dislikes. From our conversations, I was under the mistaken impression that my husband loved TV as much as I did. I was wrong. While he had told me that his favorite shows were on Food Network, I didn’t understand that 90% of the shows he watched were on the Food Network.
I quickly came to learn that my husband is not a fan of scripted programs. He prefers reality TV. For him, the ideal TV night would involve watching Good Eats, Naked & Afraid, and Survivor. I balked. While I like a few reality programs, I love scripted programming. So, our first few months of marriage involved frustrating conversations and me developing the art of persuasion to get my husband to go beyond his normal night of reality TV.
After eight years of marriage, we’ve found a good balance. I’ve learned that it will be difficult to get him to watch a scripted TV series with me (without groaning), but that there are a few he watches every week with me. At the beginning of a new TV season, I can usually persuade him to try several shows with me. He may like one of the bunch and then I DVR the rest.
When it comes to streaming shows on Netflix, I’ve given up trying to persuade my husband to watch what I like. I’m grateful that we can each have our own profile to surf and stream programs. I love watching a lot of the original Netflix programming (now I’m streaming The Defenders) but Chris does not. What we do agree to watch together are a lot of the stand-up comedy specials and Star Trek shows.
I am, however, able to persuade my children to try new shows. They love TV and, in particular, Netflix. I keep track of what they watch and often guide them to new shows they might not know about otherwise, like Puss in Boots and Trollhunters.
Even if the art of persuasion doesn’t work for your family, it’s nice to know that you can have your own channel that is all yours and you don’t have to share. It would be nice to have a few more people watch with me, but I’m good. It’s my husband who is missing out.